“A self-esteem issue doesn’t change whether you’re considered beautiful or not because it’s about what’s inside you,”

-Iman

Growing up, I had a self-esteem issue that became more problematic during my teenage years.  I didn’t like the way I looked. What I didn’t know was my self esteem issues were rooted from the inside.  It took me a while to get to know myself and truly understand how to build my self esteem. Although many people thought I was beautiful, I did not think so and I did not feel it.  The first thing I had to do was learn how to accept myself how I was. Instead of continuing to improve my outside appearance, I worked on accepting me as I was and working on making my inside stronger. Little by little, I learned self acceptance and with that came self confidence.

You may never encounter self esteem issues but I hope that if you cross paths with someone who does, you are able to shed the light on them and let them know, the issue is internal first. It is what they feel inside that is making them projcect it on their outside appearance.

I know a few of these people in my life. They don’t have broken heel moments, they are always BROKEN. These are the people that we always want to try to help. Sometimes we seem to want to help them more than they want to help themselves. You’ve tried several times to help them out, get them motivated, listen to them. None of it works, every time you think you have gotten through to them, only to realize later that nothing has changed.  You know the ones, they are great people and you believe in them deeply, they just seem to be lacking motivation to continue in pursuit of their goals for some odd reason.

You know the expression: “You can lead a horse to the water, but you can’t make them drink” , it very much applies to this type of situation. No matter how bad you want it for the other person, if they don’t want it for themselves, you have to let go. When they are ready to get help, they will know that you are there for support. Until then you can do everything in your power to help them, and still get no where becaue until they are ready to accept the help or help themselves things will remain the same. In the meantime support them silently letting them know that you are there for support. Eventually they will come around, when they do you will be there.