In my life I have encountered a lot of things in my past that were hard for me to get over. I am sure everyone else has as well. In order to move forward – I put them all in a box and kept moving. I didn’t do a good job of addressing the problems though. So as well all know, if you don’t address the main issue, it’s only a matter of time til it comes back to haunt you. Sometimes no matter how great I think I am doing, when I go home at night I sit and think about the past. So much so that it seems to be in the present. Almost as though time had never past.

I sit there and start analyzing certain things that happened years ago: “Why did he/she do this?” “Why did that have to happen?” “What does it mean when…?” Never ending list of questions, all having to do with situations that have occurred in the past.

I write about this because I still struggle with it, I still find myself looking back at things that I haven’t let go of. I will not sit here and tell you that I have been able to get over it by moving forward.
I have moved forward despite looking back. I know the usual answers people give “Don’t look back, you are doing great” “Your past is your past, move forward” Yeah I have heard it all before. What they don’t know is I have moved forward, time has past and inevitably I have moved forward because I want more. Still sometimes I wonder.

A friend of mine said to me the other day in simplest form “break the rear view mirror”.

It’s a continuing struggle, a reoccurring broken heel moment, when you move forward but can’t help but look back at things that have caused you pain. However I try to remember each time I find myself in this position that I must make an effort not to let the past takeover my present. Not all broken heel moments happen and dissolve, some of them keep happening over and over again. The lesson here is broken heel moments are just that moments, they will keep happening. Despite of how far you come, how great you are doing in your career. These moments happen to test us along the way.

Embrace your broken heel moments