While watching Grey’s Anatomy last night, I got inspired by something I heard on the show, that my cousin also shares with me in times of need. According to the Kubler-Ross model there are 5 stages of grief people experience when dealing with grief and loss of a loved one. The model was introduced by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying. Although I am not currently going through neither, I think these are the same stages we go through when ending a meaningful relationship with a loved one. Knowing this helped me understand the emotional roller coaster I was going through, when I went through my break up. I thought I would share them in hopes that they could help you too.
Here they are:
- Denial (this isn’t happening to me!)
- Anger (why is this happening to me?)
- Bargaining (I promise I’ll be a better person if…)
- Depression (I don’t care anymore)
- Acceptance (I’m ready for whatever comes)
In knowing this, I hope that the next time you find yourself in a moment of grief or experiencing the loss of a loved one, these 5 stages can prove to you that YOU WILL GET OVER IT ! Things do get back to normal, sometimes you have to allow yourself to go through the motions, allow yourself to feel the emotions that are inside of you. Just know that things always get better.
Have you ever experienced this in a particular situation in your life? Did you know you were going through different stages?
