I have broken up with friends in the past, many times actually. It doesn’t help that I have moved a lot in my life, which has forced me to let go of many friends in my life. Sometimes it was my fault, sometimes it was their fault. Regardless, it sucks.

My best friend Naomi and I had a falling out once. We actually stopped talking for about 2 years. When it first happened I cried, I felt alone. My sidekick was gone. I don’t even know how we broke it off. All I know is we weren’t talking anymore and there was a huge empty void in my life. Impossible to find someone to fill the shoes of your best friend again.

I tried to act like I didn’t care, when mutual friends would ask about her. I tried to act like I didn’t even remember she was gone. One day close to my birthday, to my great surprise she called me. I was so shocked, I didn’t know why she was calling, my guard was still up. Turns out she wanted to know what I was doing for my birthday because she wanted to be there. Next thing I know, 30 minutes later she shows up at my work and we caught up. It was as if nothing had changed. As thought time had not past. Now that is a true friendship. That breakup showed me that she is truly a valuable friend of mine. I consider her a sister. We have been through some difficult times together, she has been there for me in times where I thought I was alone.

Have you had those kind of breakup with friends before that are temporary? Then go back to normal?

My most recent break up with a friend happened last year, I had been friends with her since highschool. While we were in highschool we would go through moments of not speaking also. Sometimes, I felt she made me feel inferior as a person. Anywho, last year we took a trip together, and everything went downhill when I felt that she was placing a guy above our friendship. A guy who she had met for 2 weeks. Long story short, her loyalty was questioned when it became his word against mine. In my opinion, I would never put a guy before any of my girls, especially if I just met the guy. Anyway, she blew this argument out of proportion citing that I never got a long with any of her guys. Which made absolutely no sense to me since, who cares about them our friendship is what I cared about.

Anyway, we took some time apart and said that we would speak at a later date. It’s been a year and we still have never resolved anything. You wanna know something… I don’t miss her. After going through that little break with Naomi and seeing how much of a void she left in my life as my best friend, I didn’t have this void with this girl. It was almost like “yeah I kinda miss you as a friend but OH WELL” , if  our friendship wasn’t worth a resolution then what can I do. Keep it moving. I dont’ think our friendship was as real as I thought it was, otherwise we would have resolved it by now.

What do you think?