Written by krissy November 9th, 2009 | Published in Broken Heel Diaries | 6 Comments
Everyone has their own definition to the perfect life, that’s a given. Let me define the definition I am referring to, for the purpose of this post. Do you know a woman who is currently living the perfect life: in love with a man who is head over heels for her, in a serious committed relationship (either married or headed there), settling down with the perfect man. How many women actually have that picture perfect life? Everyone has their own definition, this is the one I am using for this post.
I heard a story the other day, about a girl who was madly in love with a man who was madly in love with her. They had been together for 5 years, gotten engaged. He got a job abroad in Greece, and she still had a job in Canada. Shipped all her stuff to Greece to live with him, they were shopping for their first home. At first glance, all her friends thought she had the perfect life. Just as she was about to quit her job, and move to Greece to be with her fiance, and live this perfect life he broke up with her. It was sudden, out of nowhere she said. He was short, just said they no longer should be together, and he would be shipping all her stuff back.
WOW, is all I could say when I heard this. What would I do if my almost perfect happiness had shattered. Everyone including her thought she was on her way to being perfectly happy for the rest of her life. So now, she is in shock, acting as though she is unfased. I think she is perhaps still in denial. Anyone going through that would feel a sense of disillusion. That lead me to think, how many women are actually in this perfectly happy situation? Do you know any?
Out of all the friends I have, I only know of one who is in the perfectly happy scenario. That being said, does that still exist? Is that even something to look forward to anymore? Is it unrealistic to think that we could find the perfect love, and build a perfectly happy future together?
What do you think? What is your definition of perfect? If everyone has a different definition of perfect is it all that impossible to attain then?
I don’t believe anyone ever has the perfect life, but I do believe there are perfect moments, it’s possible to be happy with yourself and with your life, the grass always looks greener on the other side until you get there and then you’re close enough to see all the weeds and little patches of dirt and then you look over to where you had just been and it looks perfect and green from here…
I don’t believe anyone has the perfect life either, however I do think that since everyone has their own definition of perfect; maybe to those people they have the perfect life. Based on their own expectations being met. Which is why I also think its important to stress the fact that way may constitute a perfect life for one, may not be the perfect life for another. As you said, the grass is always greener on the other side. When we do set our own definition of happiness and perfection (as close as you can get to it anyway), then we can be content with what we have.
Thank you for sharing
You could be describing me in your scenario. I didn’t pack up to move to a foreign country with a man, but I was living a life that I was very happy in, with a person I was engaged to. And then I wasn’t. And it was a complete surprise.
The concept of a “perfect life” sets up so many unrealistic expectations for people. I agree with some of the other commenters here – perfect is in the eye of the beholder. I think we can choose to be happy – even in less than ideal circumstances – and we should learn to check-in with ourselves to see if we are leading the best lives we can. Happiness is a constant, evolving process, but no, I don’t think a generalized “perfection” really exists.
Hi Jonell,
Thank you for commenting on the post. Getting to know yourself is such a great thing, I didn’t realize what I was missing. I definitely think they need to prove it, no more am I going to try to create a role for someone who doesn’t even know if they want to be in that role. Thank you, glad to be in the club. I will share all my experiences through the posts.