Guy friends and their girlfriends
November 10th, 2009 | Published in Broken Heel Diaries | 6 Comments
I have a lot of guy friends, always grew up with a lot of guy friends. When it comes to guy friends, and their girlfriends it has always been a tricky situation. Somehow, they always think that we are more than friends, when that isn’t the case. In the past, I made zero effort to get to know my guy friend’s girlfriends. Sounds mean, but really I knew it was never serious. Also, whenever we were introduced they always gave me a serious side eye, as if they never really trust that we are just friends. I normally ignore it, and them. Now, as I am getting older I am realizing that some of my guy friends, and I have very close friendships, and if they are in a relationship that makes them happy, the least I can do is make the effort to get to know their girlfriends. I have never done this before by the way, however I figured it is the grown woman thing to do. I mean, I rather do that then be in an awkward situation where we have nothing to say to each other, and you label me the B*TCH cause you have heard so much about me, yet still I have never reached out to you.
So for whatever its worth, I really value the friendship I have with this particular friend, and this girl makes him very happy. Which makes me happy that he has finally met a girl that makes him so happy. So I want to get to know her… Let her know that I respect their relationship, and in no way am I trying to come in the way of it. As well, if I was in her shoes I would appreciate my boyfriend’s lady friends making an effort to get to know me. That has never happened to me before, having my boyfriends lady friends introduce themselves to me. I think I would like it. I do have to mention, that in the past I have tried in one occasion to get to know one of my guy friends girlfriend went out of my way, and she totally shut me out. To this day, still makes it very awkward when I am around her, because I made an effort, and she didn’t reciprocate. Now when we got out in a group or when she is around, I have nothing to say to her. Weird, I know.
I am looking forward to getting to know her ,will keep you posted !
How do you deal with your guy friends and their girlfriends? Have you ever had a bad experience with your guy friend’s and their girlfriends?
November 10th, 2009at 5:30 pm(#)
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November 10th, 2009at 8:32 pm(#)
I too usually ignore them because it seems so hard for some women to understand that it’s truly possible to simply be friends. ( Gee, we knew them before they knew them and had there been anything romantic between us it would’ve happened before they came along! What do they think we are suddenly going to panic that someone else might end up with them? I don’t get it) Anyway I’m looking forward to seeing how it goes with you and I think you’re right to reach out and get to know them and hopefully she will realize how fortunate she is to have a guy who has close “girl” friends…it can be very beneficial for her! lol!
November 10th, 2009at 11:01 pm(#)
Hmmm.
I’ve been in this situation many times. Many many times… It’s just as Carolyn says: if was gonna happen, it would’ve happened. And even if it did happen it happened BEFORE you and is in the past. That being said. trust takes time.
But also, if you don’t like her…you don’t like her.
If you have nothing in common with her, you have nothing in common. Don’t force it.
November 11th, 2009at 10:31 am(#)
Carolyn you are funny. lol Some women don’t get it at all, you are right. I am looking forward to seeing how this goes, for the brief 5 minutes that I met her, she was very nice. My first impression of her was that she was a very nice person, much better first impression than I had gotten from his past girlfriends. (I am also really normally on point when it comes to first impressions) Now if she only knew, when we took a trip in this past summer, he had me walk for 2 hrs in 30 degree weather to find her a purse lol.
I will keep you posted.
November 11th, 2009at 10:36 am(#)
That is very true, trust takes time, and is gained. lol You are funny “If you don’t like her… you don’t like her”. I will keep you guys posted as I get to meet this lady, who keeps my guy friend very happy
November 16th, 2009at 11:14 am(#)
[...] As promised, just wanted to keep you posted on the progress of this since the last post Guy friends and their girlfriends [...]