This was such a broken heel moment, I had to post it right away.
About a month ago I met a guy, who is a friend of the family. He lives out of state, and was here visiting. I wasn’t interested in him in that way at all, however I felt that because he was a friend of the family I should be respectful. When he asked for my number, I gave it to him. BIG MISTAKE !!!!!! After the first week and yes notice FIRST WEEK, he was already telling me that he missed me, that he loved me, that he wants me to have his children etc. etc. You get the picture. Very suffocating to say the least. I told him to slow down, and I wasn’t looking for anything at the moment. Still he persisted, coming on even stronger. I forgot to mention this man is 10 years older than me, and has a 15 year old daughter.
Anywho, so he would continue to call me long distance every night, sometimes I answered, sometimes I didn’t. When I didn’t answer he would get very upset, and start questioning who I was with, if I was hanging out with other guys.
Needless to say, it became very annoying very fast. Today he called me, here is how the convo went:
Guy: “How are you? Haven’t spoken to you in a few days.”
Me: “Good really busy with work and blogging the usual.”
Guy: “Really it seems that you don’t care anymore.”
(I wish you could all see the expression on my face while I was holding the receiver, wondering if this guy was out of his mind)
Me: ” I don’t remember saying I cared in the first place. You are the one who was professing your love after a week, which made me feel so uncomfortable. I am not doing anything different than I was before, I am living my life doing the same things, I am not sure anything has changed on my end. I think I warned you about this in the beginning, you rushed into things and set all these expectations on your own.”
Guy: “Oh really, so I am moving too fast”
(HELL YEAH !!!! As a matter of fact don’t move at all)
Me: “Yes, this is what I was trying to prevent all along”
Guy: “So you’re busy right now”
Me: “Yes I am at work”
Guy: “Ok I’ll call you later tonight then”
I hung up the phone soooooooo confused. I have to admit I felt mean after I said this. Really I did. However he clearly didn’t get the picture, and I felt I needed to tell him as straight up as possible. I mean what else does he need to understand. This is exactly why, I am no longer setting expectations for someone of the opposite sex when they don’t even know they would like to meet those expectations. Then you end up exactly like this clown. You have to pay attention to how people show you they want to be a part of your life. If you have all these expectations and are not paying attention to the cues the other person is sending you…. You are headed for disaster, I repeat DISASTER.
That is all ! NEXT PLEASE !
