I have been going on more dates lately and meeting more people, can’t help but wonder about this one thing. Why is it that if you meet a man and tell him you are looking for a relationship 7 times out of 10 he is not looking for one? However, if you tell him that you are not looking for a relationship, it seems that their egos are bruised and they think its about them. Of course how could YOU NOT want to BE WITH HIM, right?! lmao They then set themselves on this crazy chase to try to get you to be theirs. At that point I am never sure if it’s because they actually want to be with me, or if they can’t stand to lose and have their egos bruised.

I think its really funny anyway, especially now a days when I am actually firm in my decision that I am just not in that headspace right now. I actually think its the first time in my life, where I have not felt the want to be in a relationship. I am amused at the science between the chase, if I had known then what I knew now, I would always say that I wasn’t looking for a relationship. LMAO

Eventually will come a time when I will be ready for a relationship, as a friend on twitter @kaysunmusic brought up, you know the inevitable time as a woman where the clock starts ticking. The time when we have achieved most of our professional goals, where we would like to settle down and have children (some of our wants anyway).  At that point, what will happen if a man is not ready for a relationship as our clock is ticking? So @kaysunmusic (on twitter) asks is it the clock that wants a relationship or you? She also asks “Is the clock established by society or ourselves?” Very very good questions…

In my opinion its a bit of both, sometimes I feel that as a 28 year old woman I am pressured by society to have a boyfriend or be in a serious relationship at this age. I should be thinking of having children getting married. (Society makes me feel that way anyway)

Personally, I feel that I still have a lot to achieve in terms of ambitions and I am not willing to sacrifice any of it at the cost of having a family and settling down. The idea of settling down and having a family is a high priority for me, but not at the cost of resenting my children or my husband because I didn’t get to complete my dreams.

What about you, do you feel pressured by society to be in a relationship and settle down? Do you feel the ticking clock is established by society or yourself?

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