Last week, I was catching up with a friend of mine when he came out and gave me some brutal honesty about myself. I love when my friends do this because it gives me a chance to look into myself and really analyze my actions from a different perspective.

He said it plain and simple: “You always think of what others think and you dictate your actions based on that, in 2010 I want to see you be more selfish about YOU ! Forget how others feel.”

What can you say to that, absolutely nothing, especially when you know its true. I have a tendency of trying to make everyone happy; it seldom works. I often end up being the one who needs to be cheered up because I forgot to carve a make ME happy space, or put ME first space. That being said, I was well aware of this, and when I jotted down Broken Heel Diaries Top 10 Rules for 2010  I knew that it had to be one of the things on that list.

Hence #10 – ALWAYS put yourself FIRST, if you fail to do this, you will most likely fail at a lot of things. It is impossible for you to care about anyone, excel at anything if you refuse to take care of yourself first. All too often we forget this rule and it creates a lot of chaos when we do.

I always have to remember this, which is why I made it a rule. Although it was the last one it was the most important one. When I finally master this, I will be freed from the useless worry and stress that accompanies always trying to make everyone happy.

Have you been in this situation? What have you done to get over it ONCE AND FOR ALL ?