Written by krissy February 10th, 2010 | Published in Broken Heel Diaries | 2 Comments
Early this week, I wrote a post on settling and your thoughts on settling here. It seems that from the responses I have gotten, no one thinks that settling is the best thing to do. I don’t believe in settling either, but I can’t help but wonder what if you don’t settle for Mr. Good Enough but the guy you are waiting for never comes along. Would you prefer to be alone or be with Mr. Good Enough?I don’t want to settle ever, in my personal relationships or my love life. I want the sparks, the chemistry, the perfect fit, the butterflies… I want all of that. I know it exists because I have had it before. Question is now, will I find that with someone else? I know that I am not willing to be with someone for the rest of my life just for the sake of being with someone.I guess in a nutshell what I am saying is that I am either waiting for the feeling that I once had, or trying to find that feeling again. One thing is for certain in 2010 its a lot less about waiting then it is to see if it’s out there, that’s is for sure. So far so great, I must say. I am a hopeless romantic and I hope that I do find that feeling again.
Do you think you can find the feelings of the one who steals your heart, and gives you butterflies with more than one person? Do you think there is more than one person who can be your match?
Don’t settle…it’s out there, it’s real and it’s worth waiting for….but in the mean time have fun! I do believe though that the butterflies later don’t stop fluttering completley but as you grow together instead of the exciting butterfly feeling you feel safe, warm, and for me anyway I like my relationship with my husband so much more now than in the begining. We’ve gone through alot! and if I could go back in time and do anything different, I would not be so afraid to “let go and totally surrender my heart and soul” this was a second marriage for me after being totally devastated that “Mr. Right #1″ wasn’t at all the person I believed him to be so it’s been really hard for me to believe that “Mr Right #2″ is “really” all that I believe him to be..it’s still hard and we’ve been together for 22 years now! Lol. So, my advice to you and to myself (and this is a constont battle for me!, still) Surrender…the worst that can happen is that you get your heart broken, broken hearts do mend and it really is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, it’s better, it’s just not always easy!!!
Thanks for sharing, I guess in the end it comes down to that either surrendering and trusting that our decision was the right one, or possibly wait forever. *sigh* lmao if only it was possible to always get our way.