Yesterday, I had the inevitable conversation with a guy I am seeing. I am not sure I am looking for a relationship, but I sure know that I am not trying to fall in love with a guy who knows he does not want a relationship. So, to learn from my past and to as well prevent wasting anyone’s time I decided to have the conversation.

I didn’t expect nor want him to tell me that he wanted to be my boyfriend, I am not even sure I want that. I just wanted to know where his head was, and if he would entertain a relationship with the right person, or if he was just looking for casual encounters. Turns out he doesn’t know. That’s fine, I just don’t want to stick around til you find out, I mean we can still be friends, and hang out once in a while but I will no longer be giving all my attention and time to you. Not going down that road again. I don’t feel sad about it either, I am actually glad I know beforehand, this makes it easier for everyone I think.  I think its always a good idea when people set the right expectations from the beginning. I am not sure he understood where I was coming from, but I am glad that I took the necessary steps to prevent what I knew to be a habit to me. Falling in love for with the guy who wants everything but a relationship with me.

I am no longer afraid to say what I want, I am not longer afraid to walk away from a situation that no longer fits what I am looking for, just to prevent being alone. Those days are long gone.

Have you ever done this before? What do you think about this?

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