I haven’t written anything personal in a while, partly because I was busy. The other part was due to the fact that in sharing with some people that I was writing on this blog, they started to dissect what was meant to be my form of expression in release, and make it into a soap opera guest starring them. That was never the purpose, I only wanted to express myself freely. I didn’t like the fact that they were reading everything I was writing and thinking it was about them. Well, today, I decided that I DONT CARE.  I will not start holding back on things because they feel they are the subject.

On that note, here goes a story for you.

I don’t normally ask a lot of question when I date a guy, I am more of the observing type. I think you can pick up a lot more on what a person doesn’t say then what they do say. That being said, I may not ask questions out loud but with one particular fellow, he raised a lot of question marks. When I say a lot I mean more than 5…  There were red flags everywhere, until one day, I decided to raise the questions. If  he feels that he wants to be a friend of mine, I think the least he could do was be straight about who he was. I say friends because I decided it wouldn’t go any further. I mean it is only fair that if you are going to be a friend that you are honest about who you are. What’s the point of hiding stuff??

So I ask him all of my questions, and guess what?! He doesn’t want to answer any of them. Super defensive !?! At which point I am thinking “Why are you so defensive?”. Everything about him made me feel like I was

Any who he chose his battle and decided to leave everything about him still a big mystery. So, I decided to do the same. Don’t expect me to put in more effort if you are not willing to meet me halfway and be honest. Sure I will still answer your phone calls but I believe that honesty is the foundation of any friendship.

My message to you is, if you are unsure about someone or something and you see all these red flags. You are probably seeing them for a reason. Take some time to evaluate the situation and ask that person to clarify them. If they are unwilling to answer them… well that’s even more of a red flag.