I haven’t always made the decisions that others thought I should have in my life, but I made decisions that I thought at the time were the best for me.  I was content when I made those decisions, even if everyone else thought I was out of my mind. I was happy to follow my own instinct and create my own path.

Last week, I had a conversation with my mother and it made me think about things. Her and I have had a difficult relationship in the past, which after years I learned to forgive. I have also learned to understand and accept that she will not always say the right things. Often times she uses words that cut me like a sword, but she doesn’t realize the impact of the words she chooses.

With time, I have learned not to react to her harsh words, and instead calmly try to explain to her how they make me feel. Last week she said to me in a conversation “You have made no forward progress in your life, you are getting old now and I think you should rethink your life over, and think about all the bad decisions you keep making”

I held the receiver and I felt pain in my chest, I wanted to get mad. I inhaled, exhaled and then said as calmly as possible “Please choose your words carefully, and perhaps choose different words because I don’t think you mean to say them the way you do.” She still continued on the same path, and that’s when I finally realized she has no idea how her words impact me. She was maybe right in some areas of my life I haven’t progressed, but to say that I haven’t made ANY progression was an overstatement.

That is my Broken Heel Moment, that I wanted to share with you today. Moral of the story, sometimes you can’t be mad at people and what they say, you have to see beyond what they are saying. You have to understand that ultimately they may not be using the right words, but they are most often than not concerned about you.