Next time you are about to utter hurtful words to someone – take a moment and think about if what you are telling them is a reflection of your own insecurities and if you really intend on creating the damage your words are about to inflict on that person.

I woke up this morning, minding my own business – when I was subject to the longest, most hurtful parade of words I had experienced in a long time. I didn’t rebuttal anything mean – but as each word was thrown at me like a dart I felt it. I felt it attack my soul, one by one. I think I actually blocked out the sound I was hearing, to look at this person and wonder why they would say such things. I didn’t get it. Is it that they really meant it? Is it that they have so many of their own issues they are projecting it on me. Either way, it didn’t feel good, and more than an hour later it still doesn’t feel good.

I am sure I had times when I said things to people without thinking of how it would affect them, one thing is for sure – after feeling this way today I was reminded why we should always be aware of the words we use when addressing others. Words are more powerful than we allow ourselves to think at times, moment pass but the words last and remain. I believe in getting your point across and speaking your mind, but I also believe that there is a way to do it without creating a shit storm of damage onto others.

So how do I fix this, what do I tell this person to make them understand how they made me feel?