Over a year ago, I vented about being lost in female captivity. Basically, how I thought as women we over analyze everything, and how men didn’t suffer from this malignant and consuming trait. I know this is presumptuous, but at the time that’s how I felt. Luckily, this one guy took the time to put things into perspective. I thought I’d share with you the eloquent words of this anonymous male.

Anonymous said…

The stability implicitly expected from us men can be as suffocating as the expectations of delicacy and refinement placed upon women.

Male common sense whispers kindness implies weakness. That decency and strength, sensitivity and intelligence, or faithfulness and independence are mutually exclusive. You are never both because by nature you cannot be both, so it lets us off the hook, sorry girls.

Male feelings can only be shown during the moment. The moment of the big touchdown, the drunken moment at the bar, or the intense moment of the orgasm. Anything else might expose too much of ourselves.

So while some of my brethren may adore the idea of it being a Mans World, I find that cold idea just as foreign and objectionable as most women. Imagine that.

Because in the end what separates us humans, guys and girls, from the wild beasts is not how strong, guarded, stoic or manly humans can be. Instead, its the tears and laughter, love and pain, loyalty and unpredictably.

So maybe we need to stop reminding ourselves of the pressures to be distinctly masculine or feminine, with real or imagined differences, and just be.

Just be.

What do you think?

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