It works for me right now

I won’t go on and on about why long distance relationships don’t work for you, but I will tell you why it’s working for me.

I’m an independent woman, but for some reason when it comes to relationships I get too involved. The relationship starts to become an overwhelming part of my every day. I find long distance helps me to take a step back. It allows me to continue to reach my goals and still have someone special in my life. Being apart helps me to moderate my life and maintain balance. Of course long distance isn’t forever, but right now-it’s for me.

My juicy story began when I was vacationing in a steamy hot spot that screamed out “romantic fling.” That’s where I saw Andreas-100% eye candy standing a foot in front of me. Luckily for me, he’d already seen me the day before. After introductions and such, we spent three equally steamy weeks together, exchanged numbers and parted ways to our respective continents. I didn’t think I would see Andreas again. Not only was English Andreas’ second language, but a gigantic ocean (specifically, the Atlantic Ocean) separated us-making visits expensive and timely.

Andreas began calling me and we would talk on the phone for hours. Andreas was funny and we shared a lot of the same common interests. I was quickly addicted to Andreas and his adorable accent. With my friend’s destination wedding (proof that long distance does work) looming close, I decided to invite Andreas as my guest, and he quickly accepted the invitation. The visit was a success, and became a prototype for the many visits that followed.

Why are we still doing this long distance relationship? Especially since everyone says it’s too hard, not worth it and too much trouble. What is our secret? Andreas and I keep things honest, open and spicy, plus we always know when we’ll see each other next.

Keep it Honest. None of this long distance stuff would be able to work if I did not trust Andreas. I can go to bed completely confident that Andreas isn’t out picking up girls or sleeping around. I’ve spent enough time with Andreas to trust him, and my intuition isn’t sending off alarm bells.

Keep things Open. I’ve gotten to know Andreas quite well in a short amount of time. You may ask how do you get to know someone when you live so many miles apart? Thankfully technology has made things a whole lot easier. Communication is key in our relationship. I talk to Andreas at least once a day, and we’ll video chat whenever we are both able to. Of course it’s a tricky because we live in different time zones, but I have no issues with waking him up nice and early to say goodnight. We chat about normal day-to-day things and we always talk about our next rendezvous. Of course I can’t call Andreas and ask him to meet me after work, or plan as many dates as other couples do, but when we do get to see each other it’s magic.

Some people may argue that Andreas and I are still in our “honeymoon phase,” but I disagree. Because we aren’t able to see each other everyday, our visits are usually between two weeks to a month at a time. If spending 24 hours a day, 7 days a week together does not bring out the good, the bad and the ugly in someone, I’m not sure what does. Trust me when I say Andreas knows “my crazy.”

Keep it Spicy. You’ve got to keep things spicy. We talk about everything and anything-our sex life, the weather, our sex life, his cars, my work, our sex life…you get the picture. There’s also webcam-I’ll let you use your imagination for that one. When Andreas sees me on webcam I’m looking fly. None of this-I just jumped out of bed look-he can see that look when he wakes up beside me on our next visit. By keeping things hot on the phone and on camera, I keep Andreas stuck on me.

I’m off to visit Andreas next week. I’m starting to get those butterflies in my stomach. When we see each other it’s like we’re seeing each other for the first time all over again-but it’s so much better because we actually know each other.

Follow me next week on my adventures to the most romantic city in the world (or so they say)-Paris!