Food is a funny thing, we are either spending time thinking about it, preparing it, or, the best part, enjoying it. But why do we sometimes take it to the next level with ‘just one more little __________’. Feel free to insert whatever indulgence you want, the point is, are we eating away our desire for sex?

Take a moment to reflect on a recent fantasy you’ve had. It could be something that dropped into your thoughts at your desk, on a treadmill, or even just doing a routine task. Now try to remember what you did immediately afterwards; was it something to relieve the tension? Perhaps you opened your desk drawer and reached for a secret stash of candies. Maybe you hopped off the treadmill at the gym, convinced it was time to head home for a special overindulgent dinner. If your answer is similar to these, you may just be experiencing an extremely common way of coping with a lack of sexual interaction.

Cravings can stretch to all ends of the imagination, and sexual cravings are by no means excluded from this. Just as we may desire a chocolaty treat or an extra scoop of ice cream, we may also find ourselves needing and wanting the satisfaction of human touch, physical intimacy or quite simply: a quickie. But, if this need becomes frequent and is not reciprocated, is it possible we’re compensating the only way we know best… by eating? This may scratch the itch at the moment, but adding delicious ‘love’ to your waste line will definitely add up to disaster over time; for both your body and your sex life.

If you find that comfort food is slowly becoming a regular part of your diet, you may need to step it up a notch, initiate spicy encounters more frequently, send a naughty email that you can follow up on later, but most importantly stop binging and start burning it off in the bedroom.

3 Juicy ideas to get things started:

1) Save the snacking for the bedroom: Create a bedroom buffet with all your favourite treats to enhance the taste of your sex life.  Seductively placing savoury treats in your mouth while kissing is sure to sweeten the mood.

2) Get gourmet:  Try experimenting with different sensations and flavours, hot/cold, bubbly, sticky, sweet/sour, soft/hard, and any other textures that turn you on. 

3) Don’t fight the feeling: The importance of knowing your sexual self can easily be forgotten.  Take more time to explore your own visual and physical desires daily, and perhaps snacking will become few and farther between.