Sometimes we outgrow situations, just as we do people. You know the routine, it’s like that old pair of heels that are just TDF. Once upon a time you couldn’t get enough of them and wore them every chance you got. Then, seemingly out of nowhere, they don’t fit the same anymore. I mean, they are alright, but they just don’t have that same effect.

I think it’s perfectly normal to go through this as we age. Maybe I am being a bit nostalgic because I am turning a year older in a few weeks, but I feel a transition all over. In either case, I have come to learn that the worst thing we can do is to insist on making it fit, when it’s clear to see that it doesn’t fit. For whatever reason… It doesn’t have to be associated with the imagery of throwing our fav TDF heels in the garbage, maybe it’s just a matter of putting them on the shelf to reminisce once in a while.

If you have a relationship or situation that you feel has outgrown itself, rather than waste precious days, months, years in repair – why not just agree that the best decision for you may be to spend your time in another way. Other than repeatedly going through the same motions.

I titled this Assume Toi because it’s one of my cousins’s most repeated sayings, simply meaning take responsibility for yourself.