How can we focus on improvement, rather than setting before us an overbearing set of resolutions. This year I’ve challenged myself to be a better version of myself and to trust myself enough to grow.

When you fail, fail big – forgive. Forgive the people around you, most importantly forgive yourself. – Anon

Daniella

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Any kind of motivational speaker or influencer or philosopher or Oprah groupie is going to tell you to make 2012 your best year yet.

And maybe that’s good (and amazingly vague) advice. Maybe that includes not making any resolutions. Maybe it includes deciding where you want your life, career or relationship(s) to go.

All I want you to know is: if 2012 isn’t the best year yet, don’t fret my pet.
With so much pressure on yourself anything short of achieving perfection willbe a disappointment. I think the best resolution (I hate that word, by the way; “resolution,” ugh, it’s like climbing Everest when you’ve smoked for 30 years and lose your breath walking from your couch to your fridge – completely unrealistically attainable) is to just: BE GOOD TO YOURSELF.

Stay kind and honest to your ideas and feelings, there’s nothing more damaging while trying to go above and beyond your expectations if you don’t let yourself fall flat on your face in the mud, then slipping again in a puddle while trying to get up.

Laugh. Learn (at least a little something). Try it again and again and again.
x, BHD.

Andrea

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What are your thoughts on signs? Just curious to know before I share some of my stories with you. I have some crazy signs that have been presenting themselves lately, all over the place.

1. Remember to love and be loving at all times, NO MATTER WHAT, even when (especially when) it hurts. If you keep this in mind when facing hardships, I guarantee you they will seem less bigger than they really are.

2. If you want to receive %100 out of a person or situation, you must first be willing to give %100 of  yourself. You will get what you put in, at all times.

3.  Believe in yourself and your potential at all times. If you don’t no one else will.

4. Never take anything in your life for granted, be grateful for every opportunity, every person. Remember it could always be worst. The moment you begin to take things for granted in your life, they will be taken away.

5.  No matter how bad it seems, always remember that it will come to pass. Obstacles are placed in our way to help us grow and learn.

6. Never be afraid of taking a risk (well calculated of course), you may never have that chance to have the same opportunity twice.

7. Life doesn’t wait for anyone, remember to make the most of every moment and live every day to the fullest.

8. Dream big and dare to make your dreams come true ALWAYS ! You only have one life and you don’t want to wake up with a bunch of regrets, wondering what could have been.

9. Don’t waste any of your precious valuable time on anyone who doesn’t deserve it. If they don’t recognize your value or worth, keep it moving. Don’t try to argue or understand why, it will only cause you to doubt yourself.

Although this is the last rule, it is the most important one. Without this rule none of these are possible, so last but not least.

10.  ALWAYS put yourself FIRST, if you fail to do this, you will most likely fail at a lot of things. It is impossible for you to care about anyone, excel at anything if you refuse to take care of yourself first. All too often we forget this rule and it creates a lot of chaos when we do.

I have experienced situations in my life where for whatever reason, a person chooses to push all my buttons… I try and try to practice as much patience as possible, then I break. When I am ready to confront them and tell them what they are doing, and how its affecting me negatively, before I can even get a word in, they have disappeared. Hence the term “Dish and Dash”, it’s like they dished out all this drama stirred it up and dashed. They didn’t even have the decency to stay there and deal with the mess they created.

So then they finally resurface, thinking the coast is clear and I dropped it. I am just not that kind of person, I don’t forget, so I tell them “I gotta tell you something that really bothered me”. Guess what, somehow they find a way to fade out from that one too. You know what, I don’t see how I can make time for someone in my life who doesn’t have the time to listen to me.

That is all !

Please bare with me, while I get it together.

xoxox

Krissy

-Victor Hugo

I loved reading this, early this morning. I can relate to this quote on so many levels, for many years I thought I was on my own and searched to find proof that I was indeed loved. Sometimes I searched it in the wrong places, when I did however find it, in the right places. When I saw that I was indeed loved, it gave me so much strength and happiness. I rested at ease, knowing that I was supported and loved by others.