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1. Stop whining

Lost and rotten relationships are last year’s mistakes now. You have or haven’t erred. Or the only thing you may have learned is who to avoid. It’s time to curb the learning curve and stop analyzing your love past. There is no need for review, regret, or remorse. You have amassed enough object lessons in 2011. It’s time to get going.

Place a moratorium on blame. Make a new year’s vow to set break time from the friends and family who help keep you mired in guilt and sorrow.

How terrible they were or pitiful you were is yesterday’s news. Re-injury by reliving your nightmares only gets in the way of your dreams.

And even more importantly cease fire on all negative self-talk. Your biggest enemy is you. Mental reviews may be your biggest problem. You are the ultimate captive audience the one from whom you can neither run nor hide.

2. De-clutter

You may not be in a relationship or dating a possible dream mate but at least you can be at the start — facing forward not backward or anchored in a go nowhere relationship. No baggage is a good beginning. So eliminate deadwood as a new year’s gift.

If the man of the moment is not someone you would marry or who would marry you (and, yes, you do know the difference), dump him now. You’ll be less depressed. Ask yourself “do I feel better about myself when I’m with him, is he _______ (your top 3 and only 3 requirements for a husband), and does he seem interested in marriage or at least on the path to eating out of your hand”?
If so, good – proceed.
If not please say goodbye.

3. Re-order your schedule and your life

Take a long look at your time commitments and plans for the year ahead. Are they to please others or yourself? Do they further finding the love of your life and/or dating someone who might be? Whose life are you leading?

Remove time gobblers and anything you dread that truly is not necessary.

And keep your regrets brief. A simple “I am sorry I won’t be able to keep that appointment but thank you” can keep you out of trouble with anyone r anything that that doesn’t align with your priorities.

At least three times a week schedule meeting opportunities that will make the man of your dreams that much closer by no more than three degrees of separation. You need to be where a number of single eligible men might show up, someone who knows single, eligible men will be or someone who might know single, eligible men will be. No other venues will do. Your fairy tale is possible but he won’t drop from the living room ceiling. You don’t know where he’s coming from but you must network and have some visibility to let him find you.

If your new year’s schedule looks bleak, take heart — a blank slate can be a good thing. Use the time to schedule preparation time for the future you want to have — take a class that is feel good, achieves a personal goal, or provides opportunity to meet eligible men or hunting buddies. Write into your schedule what will make you better, fitter, prettier, more informed, social adept, or happy-

4. Visualize your dream

This is your movie. Write your script. Replace thoughts and feelings of what you don’t have with thoughts and feelings about your life and love relationships, as you want them to be. Feel how good it will feel to have life as you envision it and the man you want to love. Experience the joy — why wait when your images of the future can make you smile now.

Remove yourself from any who have a pathetic view of you or your future and draw closer your fans and supporters who can see you as you want to be imagined: happily and successfully in love and married. Their energy can help when yours falters and they can be your scouts on the look for your future mate.

5. Take action

There are steps to making a dream a reality. If you want to be with your dream mate in a year, you need to set your goal and your schedule to match it now.

Plan now for having the time to be married which means time for courting and time for dating and probably means sacrificing something in your current agenda. Even if you only eliminate the sitting around and sulking time, some Facebook, work, TV, obsessive texting, or spurious reading has to go. You need to schedule and protect time to date, to meet that date, and be date ready. Your mood and appearance scream either “I would like to meet you” or “don’t even think of approaching me” and if you fall in the grey area, you are losing. Don’t leave home without your friendliest version of yourself.

You need to dress your attitude and yourself not only for a date but to get a date. You have the double pleasure of looking and feeling good and having more draw, so go for it. Looks aren’t everything. I’ve seen many the woman with a sparkling personality who could make a greater beauty seem like wallpaper. But some attention to looks signifies the desire to attract — a primal basic of mating. You don’t have to knock yourself out, just don’t be scaring away potential suitors.

Planning is the key and planning should start day one of the year. One thing you know is that what you were doing last year didn’t work. This is your year for change. If love is what you want and are missing, other goals and obligations stay on your radar but he becomes thetop of your agenda.

© 2011 Janet Blair Page, PhD author of Get Married This Year: 365 Days to “I Do”

Author Bio
Janet Blair Page, PhD, author of Get Married This Year: 365 Days to “I Do”, is a psychotherapist with more than thirty years of experience in private practice in New York and Atlanta. She teaches at Emory University and has been in the New York Times, Glamour and on CNN, FOX, Good Morning America, and The Early Show. She lives in Atlanta, Georgia.

For more information please visit http://www.drjanetpage.com

With my eyebrows supremely shaped by Franchie, my hair was next to be tackled. Months of ravaged dead ends and colour treatments, not to mention the rollercoaster of life that my locks had endured, my go-to stylist babe literally cut off the unhappy.

I know I talk about PIR a lot, but that’s because I am a loyal customer and the services and products are top notch.

If you’re a guy reading this – you should still go in. Franchie can a) tame unruly brows and b) has the most luxurious shaving and skincare products in Yorkville. We all know your face needs some loving too, especially in the dry winter months.

Please, if you’re thinking about making a change, or if you need a consultation on what products to use on your face, body or head, Franchie and the PIR staff are scary nice and approachable (especially for a salon in Yorkville which still sometimes has a snooty stigma that I really don’t understand).

If you have any questions or want to know more about my experience, please ask!

Find a full list of services and their plethora of products on their website: www.pircosmetics.com

“The psychological and physiological center is the heart. In Hindu Tantras, which are instructions from the gods to humans, the heart is the Anahata chakra, the nerve center that encompasses feeling for another human, feeling for oneself, feeling for the earth, and feeling for God. It is the heart that enables us to love as a child loves: fully, without reservation, and with no hull of sarcasm, depreciation, or protectionism.

…the heart is the central motor of the entire psyche, the only thing that really matters now, the only thing capable of creating pure and innocent feeling.”  – Clarissa Pinkola

Despite how many times it’s been screwed, use your heart. Only then can we experience life as it was designed for us to feel.

* Book: Women Who Run with the Wolves

*Photo by: Me

There are various ways to celebrate Black History Month but one way to keep the celebrations going past the month of February is to continue education through reading.

Kindred: 25th Anniversary Edition  by Octavia Butler

The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison

Beloved by Toni Morrison

I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou

The Autobiography Of Martin Luther King, Jr. by Clayborne Carson

The Race Beat: The Press, the Civil Rights Struggle, and the Awakening of a Nation  Gene Roberts, Hank Klibanoff

Black and white is the best way to experiment for those afraid to go for the colour-blocking trend.

Gareth Pugh

Intermix Resort Collection: 

1. Giuseppe Zanotti - Python Printed Peeptoe Slingback: Black

2. Diane von Furstenberg – Tweed Wrap Skirt

3. torn by ronny kobo – Mermaid Stripe Skirt

4. Gerard Yosca

5. Maison Boinet Double Wrap Belt

6. Maison Boinet Double Wrap Belt (white)

7.Mason Black And White Leather Bustier Dress

8. Gryphon – Stretchy Knit Sweater Dress

9.  Splendid – Cargo Flap Pocket Blouse