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You don’t need anyone who doesn’t need you

Daniella — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 14:40:47 +0000

I like this quote a lot! In my past and for a long time, I thought I needed certain people to be a part of my life. Whether for validation, comfort or simply for companionship. I always believed I needed them. Truth is, sometimes I held on to some people that didn’t appreciate me the same way I appreciated them. What a waste of time. I would think that it was something to do with me. Regardless of the reason, the point is this: there is no need to wonder. If you are ever in a situation where you give your all and receive nothing in return: KEEP IT MOVING! Seriously, as the quote says - you don’t need anyone who doesn’t need you. Find people that are more valuable of your time and more appreciative of you. Anything else, is a waste of time. SIMPLE! The End.

Guy friends and their girlfriends

krissy — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 16:23:31 +0000

I have a lot of guy friends, always grew up with a lot of guy friends. When it comes to guy friends, and their girlfriends it has always been a tricky situation. Somehow, they always think that we are more than friends, when that isn’t the case. In the past, I made zero effort to get to know my guy friend’s girlfriends. Sounds mean, but really I knew it was never serious. Also, whenever we were introduced they always gave me a serious side eye, as if they never really trust that we are just friends. I normally ignore it, and them. Now, as I am getting older I am realizing that some of my guy friends, and I have very close friendships, and if they are in a relationship that makes them happy, the least I can do is make the effort to get to know their girlfriends. I have never done this before by the way, however I figured it is the grown woman thing to do. I mean, I rather do that then be in an awkward situation where we have nothing to say to each other, and you label me the B*TCH cause you have heard so much about me, yet still I have never reached out to you.

So for whatever its worth, I really value the friendship I have with this particular friend, and this girl makes him very happy. Which makes me happy that he has finally met a girl that makes him so happy. So I want to get to know her… Let her know that I respect their relationship, and in no way am I trying to come in the way of it. As well, if I was in her shoes I would appreciate my boyfriend’s lady friends making an effort to get to know me. That has never happened to me before, having my boyfriends lady friends introduce themselves to me. I think I would like it. I do have to mention, that in the past I have tried in one occasion to get to know one of my guy friends girlfriend went out of my way, and she totally shut me out. To this day, still makes it very awkward when I am around her, because I made an effort, and she didn’t reciprocate. Now when we got out in a group or when she is around, I have nothing to say to her. Weird, I know.

I am looking forward to getting to know her ,will keep you posted !

How do you deal with your guy friends and their girlfriends? Have you ever had a bad experience with your guy friend’s and their girlfriends?

Appreciate my worth, please?

krissy — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 17:09:43 +0000

Have you ever felt unappreciated at work? I am sure we all have. Lately, more than ever I have started to feel unappreciated at work. I am a hard worker, overachiever always over delivering. At first, I felt that over delivering was a great thing. It was almost a way for me to measure my success, almost as a dare to myself to see if I could set a new bar for myself. I thrived off of it. My employer loved it ! My supervisor appreciates it and encourages me constantly. However, I don’t think anyone else does. They have almost become used to me over delivering and exceeding their expectations. I don’t even feel that I am being treated like a human being anymore, I feel like I am being treated like a machine. No one asks how I am doing, how the workload that is being given to me is affecting me. No one bothers to ask about my professional advancement goals. Nothing, I am now considered a machine that yields results “Need something done, sure dump it on Krissy, she’ll turn that around for you faster and better than anyone”.

This affects my motivation at work a great deal. Have you ever felt this way? What did you do? Some days, I feel like walking into my VP’s office, and having a conversation with him, but I also feel that until I can construct my thoughts cohesively without any emotions that I should refrain from doing that. Other days, I just feel that I have had enough, I feel that I know my worth as I have set these bars for myself constantly through my career. I am confident that I could go somewhere else, and gain more appreciation for my worth.

I am tired of fighting for what I think I deserve at work. I am tired of being looked over for newly created positions that are in complete alignment with my post. I have had enough of not being invited to private company events when I yield a great deal of revenue for the company. When I see the people that have been invited over me, I grow resentful because I know that I have worked my butt off. Not to say that they haven’t but I feel that I deserve it.

I know that my time here is nearing an end, I clearly can’t leave without a transition to my plan B. I can’t wait for that day, until then I pray every night that this doesn’t eat me up too much and suck away my drive, ambition and passion.

Any of you going through, or have gone through the same thing? What has helped you through times like this?