“We live in deeds, not years; in thoughts not breaths; in feelings, not in figures on a dial. We should count time by heart throbs. He most lives who thinks most, feels the noblest, acts the best.” – Aristotle

I was reading an article that posed the question “If you could live  10 years of your life without pain, living in total bliss but you wouldn’t remember a thing- would you do it?”

I would opt not to as I think the experiences we go through, painful or not create our story. Each of those experiences contribute to the person we are. According to Aristotle true happiness comes from gaining insight and growing into the best person your can be. Otherwise you are only creating instances of instant gratification, which dont last and don’t contribute to your growth.

What do you think?

“How did we make it here?” , “Where ?” pretending I am completely oblivious to the fact that we are walking arm in arm, happy as ever, walking past his old apartment from 7 years ago. He answers “Here ! You know this place, where we are, this stage, how did we get here?”. I think about this for a long moment, and maybe I am so happy to be with him, I can’t even think of the HOW, all I know is it feels absolutely divine. Him and I together it has always felt right. I didn’t really care to know how we made it here, as much as I cared to just remain here. I guess to remain here, I would have to find out how we got here.

When I saw him last night, there was no doubt in my mind that this was my man. I felt so peaceful, I felt so happy, I didn’t want it to end. His touch gave me shivers, walking holding on to him made my heart smile. I didn’t want him to go back (away to school). I wanted to tell him to stay, I knew he couldn’t. I wanted to tell him to come back, I knew he couldn’t. Mostly I wanted to tell him, that I was ready and that we should do this. Then I decided not to rush the speed of things but I really didn’t think we needed further proof that we were both completely head over heels for each other.  I didn’t say any of those things, but when I felt the urge to, I spoke them silently to myself. I know that there is a chance that he may have known all along what I was speaking in my heart. Read more…

Sometimes if not most often, I believe that people should say what they mean to say. I can’t imagine anything worst than living your whole life, witholding how you really feel about things, keeping it all to yourself. Life is too short to not share what you are really feeling with others. Last week, I took my heart in my hand or I put it on my sleeve I should say and poured it all out. I didn’t tell anyone I was going to do it, because I knew they wouldn’t understand. So… I did it. I wrote it out, in this blog to free myself of my thoughts. I didn’t think he would read it but he did. Read more…

I have had to changed my outlook on life over the past couple of years.  Perception is everything.  It’s like changing your old outdated glasses for the newest trendy style that goes with everything you own.  I really noticed how I starting shining my light differently to the world when people started telling me.  I attended a potluck before just Christmas.  Someone I don’t really interact with on a regular basis jump into my conversation and said to me, “Oh Linda!  You are just too positive.”  I laughed it off and continued chatting.  I have been also told I’m a firecracker and I don’t remember you being this chirpy.  These comments are all confirmations I made the right choice to be happy. Read more…

My guy friend came to town this past weekend. I didn’t expect to see him, as I thought he would be spending time with his girlfriend. Saturday night he asked if I wanted to go out with them. I tried so hard to find someone to come with me, I didn’t know what to expect, and surely was not up to be a third wheel. No one was up to it. I knew this would be a great opportunity to spend some time with them, and get to know her a little bit.

Turns out, I had a great time. She was very nice, and I saw immediately why he liked her. She is a very sweet girl. Unlike some of my guy friend’s girlfriend’s she actually made an effort to talk to me. We conversed, and partied. All around good time. I am glad I went out although I was apprehensive, not wanting to be the third wheel. Very glad I went,  I am happy for him

Lesson learned, stepping out, and making the effort to get to know your guy friend’s girlfriend is ALWAYS a good idea. Especially if the friendship means a lot to you. I could see that he was happy that I we finally got to meet, and got along.

As promised, just wanted to keep you posted on the progress of this since the last post Guy friends and their girlfriends